So many things in our lives shape us. A lot of it has to do with the people in our environment whether you were raised mostly by family or by the kindness of those who adopted you into their own family. Still, we have to overcome our fears especially during these covid-19 pandemic times. The pandemic will eventually be a temporary moment in history. For now we are living it. It forces us to all examine the things we know.
For me, I have learned that we are far more resilient than we give ourselves credit for. And, the thought keeps popping up in my mind that we have to remember our ability to say no. We have to remember our ability to say no to fear, doubt, and uncertainty. We have to own that we are both powerful and intelligent. Yet, so many of us have heard the word “no” more frequently than we heard the word yes. NO – you can’t touch that. Or, NO – you can’t try that. Or, NO – you can’t do that. As a result we have lost the ability to decipher when we should say yes or no.
When I became a parent, I made the conscious decision that I did not want ‘no’ to be the first word for either one of my children. This forced me to choose my words carefully. At the time I didn’t realize how often I had heard the word no. And, I know that it had the opposite effect for me as I started to grow and find my own voice. I wanted to say yes to everything. I wanted to try everything. I wanted to ensure that I didn’t miss out. So, as I start several new business ventures, I’ve had to empower myself with the ability to say “no.” Although I cannot remember the author at this time, I can certainly remember that there is a quote that should resonate with all of us. You cannot do all things but not everything. The gist of this was more or less to say that we can’t do all things at once. So that means it’s imperative that we hone our ability to say no and trust our instincts to guide us on the appropriate timing to say yes. The hardest part is to re teach your brain to distinguish the difference. The hardest part is to trust yourself and your own innate ability to know what is best for yourself. So, with that I encourage you to exercise your ability to say no but never limit yourself from saying yes when it resonates deeply within your soul.