Do you adapt your style to your environment?

Do you adapt your style to your environment? Or are you the type of person who is known for always being “on point?” Have you adapted yourself to become your brand? These are 3 questions that I’ve seen come up in various forms recently especially as we’ve moved to teleconferencing and having to live in a virtual world during this global pandemic called COVID-19. Also known as the Corona virus ak.a. #darona or if you’re a little tiny bit more #theRona. Regardless, a lot of my co-workers and other peers who are now working from home have said that they were doing teleconferences from their pajamas or in their robes. I found their comfort in their home and utilizing the right to choose to go on-screen or not to be commendable.

Yet, my take own take on work from home particularly for parents who are simultaneously home-schooling their children differs from some of these practices. In fact, an article I recently received from my mother about recommendations from a home-schooling teachers of 10+ years (if I recall correctly) said to let the kids stay in their pajamas longer. My own personal experience, growth and, development have taught me to value my routines related to self-care. For example, I have a self-care routine that requires me to get fully dressed in the morning partly because it makes me feel good. And, I like the stability of my routine. Equally important, I like my kids to be fully dressed in the morning too because they need me to teach them to establish good habits and be ready for whatever the day has ahead of them.

Furthermore, I was always taught to be readily available and quickly adapt to multiple environments because you never know where we are headed next. To paraphrase an old-school saying Al Grace of Loop Capital Markets taught me well: I may be going to see a man about a dog. Consequently, I am one of ‘those types’ of people who wants to know how I am supposed to show up to a date ,for example. I can not tell you how many times I’ve been annoyed about a date night gone wrong simply because my date did not tell me where we were going and I also failed to ask or push for more answers. This results in me ending up dressed inappropriately or having to bring flat shoes just in case my heels will be problematic.

So, why do I adapt to my environment? This is a firm belief and principle of my life and it is important you understand its foundations. I adopt to my environment because I am around a lot of different types of people and I love meeting new people. I also know that it makes me more relatable when I dress appropriately. Also, I grew up in a household where we were taught to constantly be “on point.” The reason why we constantly had to be on with best foot forward is because my dad whose surname I still use proudly is a local celebrity of sorts. My dad Kenny R. Williams, Senior is the executive vice president of the Chicago White Sox. Do know what it was like growing up always feeling like you had to represent? It was hard sometimes and occasionally it was fun. I am a more laid-back person but I was taught to behave a certain way. I was taught to adapt to my environment and again to adapt quickly. This is because things could changed in our house rather quickly especially when there are five kids and two adults living there. Yet, you probably know that old adage: to whom much is given much is expected.

And while I was in that amazing Facebook group I mentioned earlier I was speaking with another member and she explained her own rationale for adjusting her attire in the professional world. Allow me to introduce Tee Goldsmith-Irby who is a fellow entrerpreneur who is gracefully permitting me to share her feedback on my perspective in that amazing FREE Facebook Group from my fellow Duke alumna Shalena Diva. In this group where we responding to a feedback request regarding appearances she said my own take: “It makes sense. I agree with you. If my outfit was blue, than my shoes had to be blue. My hair was always done, and one day I did not roll up my hair , but there was still a curl and a man said to me “what’s up with this” and pointed to my hair. I told him nothing and this is what the people was going to get for today. When you work 5 days in an office building, it is challenging to be put together each and every day. I started to change the way I looked to a laid-back look and, as you stated, if I wanted to take it up a notch a couple of days out of the week, I did. Of course, it is different for individuals who are in an office setting versus online talking to hundreds or thousands of people; yet, in my opinion, I would rather exude confidence than focus on the details of how I dress as long – as I’m clean.”

Her agreement was affirming. So, to reference hip-hop, let’s all be “so, so clean,” “fresh to death,” “fly,” or simply “dress to the nines” to match our environment and adapt according. I look forward to hearing your comments or you can even just tell me if you know the original creators quoted in my hip-hope reference for our amusement. Thank you all so much for going on this LITE journey with me. I appreciate each and everyone one of you. Cheers and I would be remiss in my faith if I didn’t say Happy Easter to all those who celebrate.

My Top 3 Methods for Sifting Through the News Amidst COVID-19 by TeMeka C. Williams

3 Tips for Sorting data

I have to admit that lately my default has been to truly practice living in each moment as it comes. This is not in alignment with my Type A past. Seriously, I am a graduate of Duke University land of Alpha personalities and overachievers. Several life events forced me to – as I like to describe it: “tone down my Type A.” Yet, I have also been known to say recently that I feel like I am drinking water from a figurative fire hose of information while attempting to move at the speed of light and the last time I checked that’s not humanly possible. Given our current world state of affairs how are we to manage the plethora of information being presented to us – especially without feeling overwhelmed? There are 3 methods that work best for me: stay in the moment, conduct my own research, and be kind to myself and others. So let’s get started on how we all can move forward.

Graphic image yet feels fairly appropriate for what I’m trying to describe too.

I’m an avid reader. So the first books that come to mind when it comes to how I’m coping are:

  1. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle
  2. Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert
  3. The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz
  4. How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Like I said at the start of this blog article, I have to take pause and focus on the present moment. And, the first book listed was actually a gift to me from one of my best friends whose field of study has always touched on human behavior. She started as a social worker who holds a LCSW and now she has a master in Behavioral Analysis. Needless to say I value and appreciate all her knowledge she shares with me just because she loves me and has known me longer than she has had those degrees (funny yet very true!). Also, Eckhart Tolle was featured as part of Oprah’s Book Club and essentially he teaches mindfulness is the best way for me to describe it a nutshell. Now we all know anything Oprah touches usually turns to gold so I forced myself to pay attention. Please note, I am a much bigger fan of fictional work so it was truly a labor of personal development for me to get through this book and his follow-up book which was also part of my gift set. At first, it was not easy to stop planning ahead or reflecting and reviewing on way to improve on my past actions. Then, as I made a more conscious effort to implement his teachings, it gradually became easier. So, when the flurry of information about the Coronavirus started to feel overwhelming or appeared to be a constant influx of often times faulty information, I simply reminded myself to reset my mind. Rather than allow anyone else’s panic to infiltrate my life, I would again simply focus on what was right in front of me. Luckily, that was usually my children especially once Chicago Public Schools and day care were shut down by the IL Governor Pritzker or it was work for my corporate employer. Equally important, I enjoy both my babies and the sales and marketing career I’ve built so the reset is much easier than it would be for a person who is a bit unhappier with their current station in life. I’m sure you can guess what I enjoy more, right? Well, in case it is not obvious, I enjoy my family life with my children immensely and will passionately love and protect them especially from what feels like a huge world crisis right now with the way the information regarding COVID-19 has rolled out.

My children playing at a park near our home in Chicago

This also easily leads me to the passion I learned from Elizabeth Gilbert’s Eat, Pray, Love. Her own journey through a life transition stirred my soul in ways that are hard to put into words. Yet, her book came to mind as a reminder on how to sort the information because she was also working as a writer as she traveled ate her way through one country, meditated her way in another, and fell in love in the final leg of the chapter of her life which she was illustrating for us. She was doing her very own first-hand research. This is what I encourage all of us to do as well! It shouldn’t be hard to do with the easy of smart phones, tablets, and voice-activated gadgets we all have in our home. And, if your anything like me and feeling like you practically live in your kitchen while eating non-stop (thanks again coronavirus LOL), then you have all the incentive in the world to put down that yummy food and get to work ensure you have validated the source. The Snopes website: even does that work for us so we can get back to eating faster. I jest. Still, I did share with you all that I am a proud Blue Devil hailing from the research-based institution with a renown winning basketball team right? The library, printed sources, and reputable websites if you insist on relying on only internet information will help you to not spread the vicious cycle of misinformation we have all been experiencing as of late. I can not forget how when the virus first hit and I felt like my family was inundating with news and gossip they had heard trying to push me to the grocery stores. They were well-meaning but needless to say I was frustrated at stretching my planned grocery budget well beyond its means not to mention the amount of cooking I had to do to ensure food did not go bad. LOL They say the road to a hot place is paved with good intentions and I get cold easily so perhaps I should go down that path. Again, I am joking so I hope you can bear my style of humor.

With that in mind that leads me to my last tip and point of reference. Laughter is so critical to my life. I can not count the number of times I have had to laugh to keep from crying. So when I reflect on what I learned from the Four Agreements is that most people stay in their own heads and can actually be pretty harsh with his or herself in their. So again be kind. I will even bonus you all with 2 quotes this time:

“Be kind; for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.” Plato

“The World is a Tragedy to Those who Feel and a Comedy to Those Who Think.” Horace Walpole


It’s too easy to be hard on yourself especially when it feels like your surrounded by chaos. Still, the best way to stay focused on the right data also means you must choose the words you spread carefully. And this is the reason why I brought up Dale Carnegie’s book How to Win Friends and Influence People. Admittedly, I haven’t finished his book because remember non-fiction is harder for me? Still, I remember him describing how Honest Abe turned around his political career. Honest Abe meaning our former president Abraham Lincoln who is from my home state of IL (bonus points if you know what number president he was)! Hopefully, you understand my parallel. And just in case, here’s the gist of all this information I shared in picture format.

This was a long one but hopefully you made it to the end and will like it enough to leave a comment here or via one of our social media channels. And, thanks so much for taking this journey with me!

TeMeka C. Williams
TeMeka C. Williams

A woman constantly learning for myself & about others whose also a proud mother of 2 beautiful angels. I’m passionate about my loves – all of them. Cheers to the living our best life.

Living with PMDD – My Story

I’ve been living with Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder abbreviated as PMDD since I started my menstrual and/or “friend.” Well she’s no friend of mine. She’s been more of an enemy than a friend to me. Looking back, I didn’t realize I had PMDD until I got older. It seemed to get worse. I didn’t get diagnosed with it until I was in my 20’s.

“She’s no friend of mine. …I just recently started letting some people know why I don’t come around when I make plans with them.”

Qura Walker direct quote

Those of you who don’t know what PMDD is, it’s Premenstrual dysphoric disorder. It’s like having an evil twin sister who wants nothing more than to see you break into pieces. I get it two weeks out of every month before my period and it’s the worst two weeks of my life, not to mention my family’s life. You see – when she’s about to visit I start feeling depressed. I have no desire to be around people at all. I’ve had suicidal thoughts and I have zero confidence in myself during this time. I have severe migraines, insomnia, panic attacks and I have lack of concentration. Oh, and bloating that makes me look like I’m 6 months pregnant. I’m not friendly during this time. I have no patience or tolerance for people. You try living a “normal” life with PMDD. It’s taken over my life for what seems like my entire life since I was a teen. There is no cure or medicine that has worked for me and I’ve taken probably all of them. I haven’t taken anything in years now and refuse to at this point. I simply deal with my symptoms the best way I possibly can. My family probably gets the worst of it and I hate that I can’t control it because they deserve so much better than the way I am during this time. Please do not confuse PMDD with PMS because it is 100 times worse and never let anyone tell you that you’re overreacting or using it as a crutch. I’ve heard it all when I try to explain to people that it’s an illness. I just recently started letting some people know why I don’t come around when I make plans with them. As for now, I have no choice but to go through this alone because I don’t know anyone else who has had PMDD who can truly understand how I’m feeling and what I go through. This is a very small portion of my story and I hope it helps someone else who may be dealing with this illness.

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Qura Walker
Qura Walker

Hi, I’m Qura and I’m a wife, mother, daughter and friend. I love helping people and a goal of mine is
to spread love and light throughout humanity. I am a spiritual being having a human experience.
Love and kindness are key to the evolution of our world.

How prepared are you to adapt?

Wow, I really have to start by saying what a unique past couple of weeks it has been to say the least! I hope you all are doing well. Life is a journey and we are living in unprecedented times at least for my era and generation. With that being said, I must ask how prepared are you to adapt?

As a woman who used to work in both investment banking and healthcare, adapting in fast-paced was a requirement in both fields. Now that my corporate career is in technology, I wish I could say that requirement no longer exists. However, what I can say is that adapting works differently now. I find that because tech changes so frequently that the industry as a whole is often more forgiving as we stumble and adjusts. So with that background I have to say, “Go easy on yourself!” Change is not always easy in fact one of my favorite quotes is:

“Change is the only constant.” ~Plato

This may be paraphrased Plato because I’ve been saying it so long now.

And with that in mind I’m going to keep this post short and leave you with this image which focuses on adapting. It also happens to showcase plenty of reduce, reuse, recycle a few of my favorite R words. More importantly, my kids and did a container gardening project recently. We adapted to being forced into our homes for the most part and made some beautiful items which will refresh our home. Take a look at our project below. It highlights both the Jade plant which truly adapts to it’s surroundings rather quickly for a plant. And, also the avocado seed which will take more time to sprout and grow. Nevertheless, the project was a great demonstration not just for me kids but for all to prepare and adapt ourselves for changes to come whether we expect them or not.

As always, we would love to hear your thoughts on this blog post as well via any of our social media channels. Until then, please let your inner LITE shine!

55 Things To Do If You’re Stuck at Home Because of Coronavirus (but you’re not sick)

We are honored to bring you this post from our honored guest Nicole Leffer.  This post originally appeared on While I still try to wrap my head around COVID-19, most of my commentary on it has been limited to my Facebook page so you’re welcome to check it out there.  And, without further ado here’s the article.




As coronavirus spreads, it looks like a lot of healthy people are going to be spending a lot more time at home for a while. Whether you get stuck at home because of an actual quarantine, or are just at home a lot more because of social distancing and social events being put on hold, we may all need to find some exciting activities to keep us from going totally stir crazy or getting bored.

A possible quarantine while healthy doesn’t have to mean that life is super boring if you come into it with the right mindset.  With a little preparation so that you have the right supplies on hand (no, I’m not talking about toilet paper or canned goods, I’m talking about tools for home-based self-entertainment, personal growth, and creativity) it could be very rewarding experience that allows you time and space to connect with God and your own soul, learn and dive deep into mindful activities and self-reflection we wouldn’t ordinarily pursue, get creative, play, and just really enjoy the gift of life.

In this light, as we all get prepared for the possibility of coronavirus quarantine, I asked my awesome friends for their ideas of things to do  (other than watching Netflix) and what to have on hand if you get stuck at home (but not sick) a lot more because of coronavirus. The list of possible quarantine activities and supplies is awesome and will keep you occupied whether you’ll be home alone or with family. The list spans a wide range including spiritual and personal growth activities, creativity, play, self-care, education and enrichment, and life productivity.

Here’s the quarantine activities we collectively came up with, the quarantine supplies you may not realize you’ll want to have on hand, and some online resources you may find handy!

Things To Do During A Self Quarantine To Make it Awesome (these are also just awesome things to do if coronavirus just has you at home a lot):

  1. Meditate
  2. Pray
  3. Journal
  4. Write a letter to God (or however you define your higher power)
  5. Read a spiritual text (maybe even one from a different faith tradition than your own)
  6. Write a letter to yourself from your future self (the things you think your future self would like you to know NOW)
  7. Create a vision board
  8. Create a written life vision (like a vision board, but in journal form)
  9. Write a bucket list
  10. Write a list of goals (and a strategy to achieve them) / map out your life and work intentions
  11. Finally do the written or meditative exercises in a self-help / personal development book you’re reading
  12. Write heartfelt letters to your friends or family (like the pen and paper kind!)
  13. Email an old friend you’ve been meaning to re-connect with
  14. Read a great book
  15. Listen to an audio book (many libraries have the ability to loan audiobooks virtually so check with your local branch!) – you can do this WHILE you do several other things on this list, too!
  16. Take a relaxing bubble bath
  17. Give yourself a facial
  18. Give yourself a manicure and pedicure
  19. Do a puzzle
  20. Color (yes, adults, I’m talking to you, too!)
  21. Catch up on sleep you need
  22. Watch TED Talks
  23. Start writing that book you’ve been saying you should write
  24. Start a blog
  25. Bake
  26. Try a new recipe
  27. Knit
  28. Embroidery
  29. Paint / watercolor
  30. Sketch
  31. Weave
  32. Cross Stitch
  33. Sew
  34. Make homemade greeting cards
  35. Make jewelry
  36. Make homemade soaps, bath salts, lotions, etc. with essential oils
  37. Build Legos
  38. Play a board game
  39. Play card games
  40. Do Yoga (there are great tutorials on YouTube or you can stream classes online!)
  41. Do an at-home fitness class / exercise on demand
  42. Go for a walk or a run (just don’t come in contact with anyone if there’s an actual quarantine situation!)
  43. Purge and re-organize your closets, drawers or kitchen
  44. Do that home improvement project you’ve been putting off
  45. Finish a project around the house that you started and never completed
  46. Deep clean your house
  47. Deep clean your car
  48. Teach your dog a new trick
  49. Take a class online
  50. Learn a new computer skill or software program
  51. Do online coursework / certifications for continuing education or skills training
  52. Listen to podcasts
  53. Update your resume and LinkedIn and start looking for the new job you’ve been considering
  54. Get an intuitive phone reading (it gives you deep personal connection with no germs required!)
  55. As my friend Ciji at Balanced Not Busy suggested: “Do nothing, just sit still. Seems like the perfect time to me for folks to see what it feels like to not have an over-programmed, demanding and unrealistic schedule and just be balanced not busy.”

Supplies you may want to have on hand if there’s a quarantine:

  1. Roll of craft paper
  2. Poster board
  3. Coloring books (adults, too!)
  4. Markers and/or colored pencils
  5. Paint / watercolors
  6. Canvases
  7. Sketch pad
  8. Other craft / DIY project supplies
  9. Magazines to cut up (for vision boards)
  10. Puzzles & puzzle mat
  11. Books
  12. Games
  13. Playing cards
  14. Journals
  15. Stationary
  16. At home yoga stuff (mat, blocks, strap)
  17. At home workout equipment
  18. Organizing bins / tubs / etc.
  19. Tools / supplies for home improvement projects
  20. Self-case stuff (essential oils, bath salts, nail polish, etc)

Online resources that were recommended (I haven’t checked all of these out, was just told they’re great!):

For Online Courses

Yoga On YouTube:

For Meditation:

For Art:

Nicole Leffer
Nicole Leffer

Nicole’s boasts a successful background in entrepreneurship, business, journalism and politics, combined with her service work and vast travel experience, adds a unique depth of perspective to endeavor as an intuitive.

Are you happy? (bonus: add these 3 methods to your life)

“Are you happy?” When my daughter was barely 2 years old she would randomly and frequently ask this question sometimes grabbing my face by the cheeks to stare in my eyes as she would ask her question. Just imagine an adorable baby face asking you such a deep question so earnestly. And, it was not just a question reserved for me to she would ask others too. She remains my baby girl who is insightful and little did I know she was asking me such a telling question that would kick this off for us. It is a question I ponder often. We all associate happiness with so many things: love, family, security, money, vacations, or not having to work – various type of freedoms. Yet, all my research especially in preparation for this blog has said happiness is a decision we make for ourselves. This concept ties in easily to one of my favorite quotes. The short version: “Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.” by Charles Swindoll. The full quote is even more amazing and appeals to my own Type A tendencies. You’re welcome to check out the long version by clicking here. I was given this quote by one of my favorite mentors Mr. Dwane Stephen. He coached me as I first navigated the world of a Fortune 50 company within the sales team and where I was taught so much but also eventually burned out under a new manager. Still, that is what I hope we (you and I. Yes, YOU reading our very first official blogpost!) can actually do together with this blog without the burn-out side. Let’s teach each other.

The truth is this will undoubtedly be a journey because I’ve started this blog out of my own desire for more and knowing that you may feel the same way I do. The blog name tells it all: simply seeking more love, inspiration, teachings, and evolution. I love the symbolism of its abbreviation as well: LITE. I could probably go on for days about lightness too. Yet rather than overload you – I’d rather thank you.

Thank you so much for sharing this journey with me. Thank you for having your own vision of what it means to be happy. I want to learn what happiness means to you and like I said in the title also share 3 methods that help you find happiness. So let’s take one small step together towards self-improvement by asking ourselves not just ‘am I happy?’ but also: what does happiness look like to me?

Post a comment, inbox me, heck you even call me because I’d love to hear from you! And, I won’t leave you hanging. Here are 3 methods to add happiness to your life

My Top 3 Methods for Happiness

  1. Meditate – Oprah and Deepak recently launched a free 21 day Meditation series which I completed and am hoping to invest in further. You could join at that time by clicking on the Chopra Center website. This is honestly what I do most frequently and fits my lifestyle. And, I’ve tried different methods of meditation so just choose what works for you. It’s harder than some may think. <sup>1</sup><sup>2</sup>
  2. Exercise – for me this is a dreaded word yet I know plenty of people who enjoy it. Full disclosure I’m not good at practicing this one but evidence shows that the endorphins released by exercise make it worthwhile. And, I can admit those phases of my life where it was regular practice I always felt better once my work out was done.<sup>3</sup><sup>4</sup>
  3. Massage – The benefits of massage have been around for centuries. I always wonder why more people have not tried it. Working with a professional may not always fit your budget but there are plenty of alternatives that won’t break your bank. Also I can make a couple of recommendations in the suburban Chicago area. NVB Massage associates as well as K & V spa both are run by people i know personally. <sup>5</sup><sup>6</sup>

So that’s all I have for you know but there is definitely more to come. Thanks for coming by and know that I love and appreciate every reader. Feel free to comment via our social media links.


Sources: 1. 2. 4. 5. 6.

TeMeka C. Williams
TeMeka C. Williams

Human first, woman next, Mom to two beautiful children and overall just looking to make positive change in the world.